They’re paying attention to the men who are paying attention to them. They’re not pining away for some dude who doesn’t know they’re alive. There are tons of women who don’t meet the conventional notions of beauty or weight who get tons of dates. They’re just guys you’d never consider going out with. Trust me, there are plenty of guys noticing you who want to ask you out. You fail to notice the men who ARE interested in you If anything, I was too picky.ĭesperate is also an anxious, unflinching NEED for the validation of the pseudo-cure of a boyfriend. I equated desperate with being willing to settle for anyone, and that wasn’t me. Fill that void with whoever’s willing! That kind of crap scares the hair off a sane dude’s ass. It’s the last thing they want to get involved with.ĭesperate and lonely women have a flair for indicating they have no standards and zero requirements for taking them home beyond a steady heartbeat.Īnything to avoid being alone with their feelings. Men can smell desperation like a rancid fart. The squeaky wheel does NOT get the grease, it gets snapped off and replaced. But this isn’t a department store and you can’t speak to the manager. You might think if you complain enough someone will give you what you want. Know what turns a guy off? Bemoaning all the reasons dating sucks, men are pigs, and life is shit. Same goes for bitching about being single. No sane dude wants to cramp his style with some pissy snot, belching and trash talking everyone all night. Why? Because you’re a drag and he doesn’t want to be seen with you. If you constantly complain, shit on everything, or are crude, obnoxious, and only know how to gossip, a guy’s not going to want to take you out. How the hell can we expect anyone to reach out to us, much less ask us out? Your Attitude Sucks Whether we’re unworthy or over-confident, we put out a vibe that we don’t want anyone coming near us. I was terrified and felt unworthy, I just didn’t know it. I’m loud, boisterous and ostentatious, and while that may look like it screams “pay attention to me!” it also screams “stay away!” I was The Girl in the Plastic Bubble because of the barrier of protective energy I exuded. Neither of these things are attractive to healthy people. The same goes if you’re too timid, awkward or unsure of yourself. If you act like you’re better than everyone in the room and are slumming it to grace everyone with your presence, you’ll leave the same way you came: alone. Like me, you have one or more of the following hang-ups. You’re not single because you’re too pretty. I’m college educated, wicked sense of humor, fun, funny, creative, and still spent the last decade of my life alone. I didn’t have a boyfriend until I was 23. I went on my first date my senior year of high school. I was a skinny minnie with an hourglass figure, huge rack and matching derrière, long hair, olive skin, jewel tone eyes, full lips, gorgeous nails… and I was single as the day is long. I’ve had overweight friends lament to me that if only they were thin they’d have the man of their dreams! I started to sympathize and then realized their weight had nothing to do with it. But really, there’s no shortage of guys waiting in line to get next to the hottest girl in the room. I’ve heard of beautiful women having trouble finding dates because men are afraid to approach them. I remember watching an episode of The Jenny Jones Show called “I’m Single Because I’m Too Good Looking”.
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